Have you ever felt like everyone around you is moving in the right direction or any direction for that matter? On the flip side your life is in the exact same place? About four months ago I started to get a serious case of FOMO as it pertained to the direction of my life.
Looking back at previous decisions that I made while looking ahead at what I wanted, I started to feel frustrated. Additionally, I was comparing my life to other people who seemed genuinely happy. My social media feed is constantly littered with couple pictures, engagement announcements, wedding images, baby pictures, career advancements, salary raises, exciting opportunities and events happening in everyone’s lives. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I absolutely love my job. My job is more than a job, it is a career that I love and that excites me. I also want to point out that I am absolutely thrilled for my family and friends and their happiness is my happiness.
However, true to my type A and anxious self, I started to panic. Would I be doing the exact same job two years from now? Would I be living in the same city and in the same apartment? It is human nature to want to learn new skill sets, take on new projects, and have a destination to journey towards. As a practicing Catholic, who values a relationship with God, I couldn’t help but feel really irritated with Him. For example, my once womanizing co-worker actually met someone while excelling in all aspects of his professional career. I thought to myself: I’m a good person, I do the right thing, say my prayers, and go to mass. God, what is happening?
Before I go any further, I want to make something very clear – I’m not saying I want to get married and have a kid tomorrow. What I am saying is that having the opportunity to do so is what was missing. I couldn’t help but think…when will it be my turn?
Within the last three months, I’ve felt God speak to me through many different people and situations, that I really want to share with you all:
- God may be requiring a greater sacrifice out of me more than anyone else: Joyce Meyer said this is in a podcast during one of her weekly segments that I listen to each day going to work. In a nutshell, she went on to explain it is not for us to understand everything, all the time. It is up to us to trust and obey God. There are some things we just do not need to know for our only well-being. Furthermore, we cannot comprehend things like God can. If God is in fact requiring a greater sacrifice out of me, then it must be for a good reason because He wants all of us to prosper as it lays out in Jeremiah 29:11.
- Stop focusing on what I don’t have and focus on what I do have: as I said in my NYC blog post, I am doing more than okay. I have the best family in the world, an amazing career that has granted me some incredible opportunities, friendships that will last me a lifetime, and my health. You’ve heard the expression, “there are starving people in China.” If I look out of my office window, there are starving people 500 feet away from me. When I put things into perspective, I’m reminded of God’s grace.
- Our life is not our own:. My priest so beautifully said this past Sunday, that “our lives do not belong to us.” If we focus on serving God, having a relationship with Him, serving others and having a relationships with those people then happiness pursues. While there are many things that I am hoping will happen in the next 6-12 months, I’ve decided not to let those things define my life and who I am. As long as I am doing what I believe God wants me to do then how can I possibly go wrong?
- Have Fun: This one is my own. Just because people post the positive things on social media does not mean that their life is perfect. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to not compare yourself to other people. When I started this blog, I was challenged by those around me to have more fun in life, hence Bri More Fun. Fun can mean different things to different people, but for me it is enjoying my life every day, focusing on my own race, and looking forward to the small things in addition to the big things in life.
Be happy, have fun and know everything will unfold just as it is supposed to.